Love

Love is a magical thing. Its never quite been understood and I don’t reckon anyone even fully understands it. 

Love is confusing. It oftentimes can be confused with infatuation, or instantaneous attraction where the main source of jubilation are hormones acting up. This is an inevidentable human nature. For instance, we could see a reasonably decent looking human for the first time and all these creative fantasies start popping out of nowhere. Red flags are ignored and thoughts of an imaginative future starts wandering but conclusively, the relationship is nothing more than a temporary superficial obsession. In situations like these, love is exciting, sizzling and oh so anticipating. The ignorance in immaturity of early stages.

Love is more than logic. Acts of unintelligence can appear, strange behaviours and uncommon patterns are symptoms of love. Many people think that feelings are calculable and can be strategised for maximum profit; it just doesn’t work that way. Feelings are unspeakable and barely describable and cannot be taken lightly at all. Almost all logic is lost when love strikes and things become unexplainable. So goes the saying that love is blind.

Love can be dull. A decade of relationship can be reasonably less exciting than the first date 20 springs ago, but what strives and persist the existence of the relationship is the understanding, trust, childishness and easiness of long married couples. After a couple of years together, love can turn bland, as though eating the same dish daily, or living in the same house for the rest of your life; and we’re doing neither of that, let alone with a living and breathing person. Needless to say, a lot of comprising must happen.

In conclusion, to love and be loved is a fascinating thing. Yet contrary to popular beliefs, it doesn’t have to start with the precondition of having a partner. Love exist everywhere. Healthy relationships between animals and humans is a symbol of love, healthy parents children connections are clear indications of a loving relationship. 

It is utmost important to not be conplacent and have an infinite grattitute to the person you are in a relationship with in order to sustain a happy and fulfilling relationship.

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3 thoughts on “Love

  1. Xyan says:

    An insightful and mature approach to the concept of love.

    Here’s sharing some of my own favourite quotes on the topic:
    “Love should be a force that helps you expand your life and bring forth your innate potential with fresh and dynamic vitality. That is the ideal but, as the saying ‘Love is blind’ illustrates, people often lose all objectivity when they fall in love. The bottom line is that, without respect, no relationship will last for very long, nor will two people be able to bring out the best in each other. Rather than becoming so love-struck that you create a world where only the two of you exist, it is much healthier to learn from those aspects of your partner that you respect and admire, and continue to make efforts to improve and develop yourself. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, the author of The Little Prince, once wrote, ‘Love is not two people gazing at each other, but two people looking ahead together in the same direction.’

    Real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality. A shallow person will only have shallow relationships. If you want to experience real love, it is important to first sincerely develop a strong self-identity. True love is not about doing whatever the other person wants you to do or pretending you are something you’re not. If someone genuinely loves you, they will not force you to do anything against your will nor embroil you in some dangerous activity.

    And my own personal mantra… “True love is when we treat love as a verb, instead of a noun.” Best wishes – Mr Raymond Chng.

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